WHAT IS IT?
Domestic Violence or Intimate Partner Abuse is a pattern of abusive behaviors used by one individual to exert power and control over another individual in the context of an intimate or family relationship.
1 in 4 women will suffer from domestic violence or intimate partner abuse.
On an average day, there are more than 20,000 phone calls that are made to domestic violence hotlines across the nation.
TYPES OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE and INTIMATE PARTNER ABUSE
Hitting, slapping, shoving, grabbing, pinching, biting, hair pulling, etc are types of physical abuse. This type of abuse also includes denying a partner medical care or forcing alcohol and/or drug use upon him or her.
Coercing or attempting to coerce any sexual contact or behavior without consent. Sexual abuse includes, but is certainly not limited to, marital rape, attacks on sexual parts of the body, forcing sex after physical violence has occurred, or treating one in a sexually demeaning manner.
Undermining an individual's sense of self-worth and/or self-esteem is abusive. This may include, but is not limited to constant criticism, diminishing one's abilities, name-calling, or damaging one's relationship with his or her children.
Elements of psychological abuse include - but are not limited to - causing fear by intimidation; threatening physical harm to self, partner, children, or partner's family or friends; destruction of pets and property; and forcing isolation from family, friends, or school and/or work.
Is defined as making or attempting to make an individual financially dependent by maintaining total control over financial resources, withholding one's access to money, or forbidding one's attendance at school or employment.
A pattern of repeated, unwanted, attention and contact that causes fear or concern for one’s own safety or the safety of someone else (e.g., family member or friend). Some examples include repeated, unwanted phone calls, emails, or texts; leaving cards, letters, flowers, or other items when the victim does not want them; watching or following from a distance; spying; approaching or showing up in places when the victim does not want to see them; sneaking into the victim’s home or car; damaging the victim’s personal property; harming or threatening the victim’s pet; and making threats to physically harm the victim.
What Does Abuse Include?
Abuse may begin with behaviors that may be easily dismissed such as possessiveness, threats or distrust. Abusers will minimize the behavior and/or try to convince the person being abused that the abusive behavior is done out of love. Love does not hurt or consist of someone trying to control. As the abusive behavior intensifies, the abuser will apologize, make promises to discontinue the abuse or get help.
Some of the signs of an abusive relationship include a partner who:
Telling the victim that they can never do anything right
Showing jealousy of the victim’s family and friends and time spent away
Accusing the victim of cheating
Keeping or discouraging the victim from seeing friends or family members
Embarrassing or shaming the victim with put-downs
Controlling every penny spent in the household
Taking the victim’s money or refusing to give them money for expenses
Looking at or acting in ways that scare the person they are abusing
Controlling who the victim sees, where they go, or what they do
Dictating how the victim dresses, wears their hair, etc.
Stalking the victim or monitoring their victim’s every move (in person or also via the internet and/or other devices such as GPS tracking or the victim’s phone)
Preventing the victim from making their own decisions
Telling the victim that they are a bad parent or threatening to hurt, kill, or take away their children
Threatening to hurt or kill the victim’s friends, loved ones, or pets
Intimidating the victim with guns, knives, or other weapons
Pressuring the victim to have sex when they don’t want to or to do things sexually they are not comfortable with
Forcing sex with others
Refusing to use protection when having sex or sabotaging birth control
Pressuring or forcing the victim to use drugs or alcohol
Preventing the victim from working or attending school, harassing the victim at either, keeping their victim up all night so they perform badly at their job or in school
Destroying the victim’s property
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HOTLINE NUMBERS
GREATER RICHMOND REGIONAL HOTLINE: 804-612-6126
VIRGINIA STATEWIDE HOTLINE:
NATIONAL DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HOTLINE: 800-799-7233
TEXT LOVEIS TO 22522
To Break the Silence.
To work together to end domestic violence by advocating for victims and changing the social conditions, beliefs and social actions that perpetuate abuse against victims of domestic violence.
To voice our concerns to remind our community that there are countless victims and survivors; their children, families and friends that are impacted by Domestic Violence and Intimate Partner Abuse.
To show victims they are loved, and they are not alone.
It is the goal that Daughters of Divine Power Organization advocating will not STOP until society has zero tolerance for Domestic Violence and Intimate Partner Abuse and ALL victims and survivors have an opportunity to be heard.
Our goal is to Promote public awareness of domestic violence and intimate partner abuse.
Our goal is to positively impact the lives of domestic violence and intimate partner abuse victims and survivors to living a fulfilling life walking in their purpose, birthing their dreams and knowing their worth.